After counting down the days until your military spouse returns, the time has finally come… They’re back! Being away from your military spouse is hard, but what can be more challenging is what comes next — their return. We know that for many veterans, getting back into the typical mommy and daddy role might not be as easy as it seems, but don’t stress, we’re here to help! In this blog, we’ll tell you 5 tips for reuniting with your military spouse.
Give Each Other Space
After returning from deployment, your spouse may need a little more alone time than they did before. Remember: adjusting to life at home can be very overwhelming for your military spouse, so give them time to get back into the groove of civilian life. For you, life has remained the same, but for them, it’s changed dramatically — their whole world has been put on pause ever since they went away.
Be Empathetic
It could feel like you have more on your plate than you did before now that your spouse has returned. It’s understandable to assume that you’ll have more help taking care of your family and doing stuff around the house, but if your military spouse isn’t coming to the rescue as you hoped, try to be more empathetic. You could be feeling some resentment, but it’s important to push those feelings away and talk about how you feel instead.
Communication is Key
Communication is an essential part of any relationship, but we know that could have been a constant challenge throughout your spouse’s deployment. Although you’re not far away from each other now, communication can still be just as difficult. Make the time to be open with one another. Be open and honest, talk about your feelings and both of your experiences after being apart for so long.
Be a Role Model for Your Kids
It can be difficult for children to understand why their military parent has been gone for so long, especially when they’re at a young age. Try your best to avoid arguments with your military spouse if possible. It’s essential for your kids to see how significant it is that your family is finally back together.
Support Your Spouse
Even if your spouse tries to shut you out, still continue to support them. There are various military resources and groups you can join that also help provide support and assistance. Don’t forget to spend quality time with friends and family! Reaching out to other military spouses who have also gone through the same experiences for guidance is also a good resource.
